When Meghan Markle was going through the heartbreak of a divorce, she probably did not imagine that she would marry royalty. Unfortunately the royals are now all taken but there is nothing stopping you from marrying someone better, after all, if the royal family can now accept a divorcee, so can anyone.
A lot of people report making a better choice for the second marriage as they know what they want, and what they don’t.
Here are some others who have made a better choice second time (or third) time round:
After the death of his first wife, Linda McCartney, Paul sought comfort with model Heather Mills. It was soon clear that she was NOT a nice person. All kinds of reports of her bullying and unkindness were coming out from baby sitters, to the charities she worked for. Even the judge at court called her a “liar” and “fantasist”, and then just to help her public image, she poured a glass of water over Paul’s barrister.
Now Paul McCartney is with a very successful woman (Nancy Shevell) who does not need his money. They can go on holiday without the entourage of make-up artist, body-guard and random-friend-from-Tenerife. The best part of all is that his children like her and so he has since been spending more time with them.
Petite Desperate Housewives actress Eva Longoria, is now on her third marriage, and each husband has been better than the last: The first marriage was to some little known TV actor (Tyler Christopher). Her second marriage was to a French professional basketball player Tony Parker. Her most recent marriage is to a media tycoon (José Antonio “Pepe” Bastón Patiño). Each marriage has lasted a little longer. Her current marriage is about to celebrate its 4th anniversary and Eva is about to have her first child. Let’s hope it’s three times a charm
Martha Dandridge Custis and George Washington, 1759
So technically Martha Dandridge was not divorced but widowed. Nevertheless, she did remarry the fabulously wealthy founding father George Washington to become America’s first First Lady. Not bad going!
John Lennon and Cynthia Lennon
Cynthia was with John before he was famous and in her biography recounts that she found his transition to fame challenging. She wrote about his alleged drug and alcohol fuelled behaviourt, he was also abusive and cheated on her with many other women. So while her second husband was less famous, it sounded like divorce was for the best.
John was already seeing Yoko when he divorced his first wife Cynthia in 1968. Cynthia actually discovered their affair when she returned home and found them both in their robes. For his part, John married someone quirky and arty and was inspired to write some of his best music.
Born in the USA rock star Bruce Springsteen met Patti Scialfa in a bar in the 1980s. Patti was an accomplished singer song writer in her own right and was in the band E Street Band. The actually toured together, and according to Bruce’s band member, were about to become a couple when Springsteen was introduced to a model called Julianne Phillips. She acted a little too but was mainly known for being Springsteen’s wife.
Two years later, Springsteen came to his senses and got together with Patti and they have been together for over 30 years and have 3 children together. They have supported each other musically and are both in the Rock and Roll in the Hall of Fame. What a talented couple!
Tina Turner may have thought she had hit the big time when she married music mogul Ike Turner, but this relationship was notorious for its turmoil. She was beaten, cheated, abused and eventually found the courage to leave. She famously had no money whatsoever from this divorce despite being one of the most famous and brilliant stars of her time.
We are glad that she found love. She is now in a couple with an immensely successful music producer Erwin Bach worth £50,000,000. They were together 27 years before tying the knot in 2013. In this time he helped her feel loved, get over the abuse she suffered and feel happiness again. They are Simply the Best!
We hope that these stories give you hope that you can do better second time round with all that valuable knowledge and experience from your first marriage.
The photo for this articles is By Mark Jones – Cropped from Flickr version: https://www.flickr.com/photos/rambomuscles/27537241539, CC BY 2.0, https://commons.wikimedia.org/w/index.php?curid=65635766
Dr Isabelle Hung is a co-founder of divorceclub.com and clinical psychologist. Having got through her own divorce just three years ago, she is now remarried and happy to report that divorce really is an opportunity for growth and positive change.